• For the below exercise, I invite you to take a few deep breaths and really get centered into your body when moving through these prompts. Take a moment to think about your sexuality and notice what comes up for you.
• Start by creating two columns in your journal. Jot down everything that arises in the left column. Then move to the right column and reflect on where these beliefs came from, where did they take root in your subconscious?
  • Negative Beliefs
    • Example: My sexuality is only for my partner, and not something that’s for me and my personal power.
  • Root of the Beliefs
    • I grew up hearing that sex is only for your husband. That it’s something we do to serve our husbands. 
• Now I invite you to think about the beliefs you want to embody when it comes to your sexuality, and then solidify those beliefs by showing yourself proof that these beliefs do exist and are true for others in the world. As you write them out, use the present tense as if you already hold these beliefs.
  • Just as before, start with the left column listing everything out, then move to the right column finding evidence of each of these beliefs.
    • Beliefs You Want to Have
      • Example: I feel confident having sex with the lights on.
    • Evidence of These Beliefs
      • There’s lots of people that have sex with the lights on because I hear about how they make time for it during the day when they have more energy.

What Does a Fully Embodied Version Look Like?

• When thinking of your chosen beliefs, what does an embodied version of someone who holds those beliefs look like? What do they think about themselves? How do they dress? How do they hold themselves? How do they interact with others? What kinds of actions do they take?

Anchor Statements

• What are some simple statements you can say to yourself if you catch yourself slipping into your negative belief patterns?
  • Example: My partner’s seen me do all sorts of things that don’t even come close to seeing me naked with the lights on. I can do this!

The Sexually Empowered Woman Meditation is a great follow up to this journalling process.

• When do I usually get stressed throughout the day?
• What’s going on? What are my triggers? What does stress feel like in my body? How does it make me behave?
• Are there any patterns?
• What’s leading up to these usually stressful moments? What’s going on during these stressful moments?
• When do I feel the most grounded?
• When do I feel the most calm? What am I doing? Where am I? Who am I with? How do I feel?
• How can I set myself up for success?
• Are there things I can do before stressful situations to calm my nervous system? Can I seek out extra support or take something off of my pl

Take Action

• How can I incorporate more calm and grounding throughout my days/weeks?

Hold Yourself Accountable

• I want to cheer you on! Your invitation is to shoot me an email or send me a dm on Instagramand tell me what action you’re going to take to bring more calm groundedness to your days.
• Celebrating you and all of this self-love work you just did. You are a amazing and I can’t wait tohear how you’re going to support yourself, and in turn support your family.