In this episode, Nicole Crone, one half of My Aligned Purpose, shares how she manifested her dream husband and built a deeply fulfilling marriage. Together, we chat about the power of becoming an energetic match for your desires and what it takes to balance ambition and romance as an entrepreneurial couple.

Nicole opens up about overcoming low self-worth and limiting beliefs, leaning into polarity to create harmony in her marriage, and the thoughtful practices that keep her relationship strong. From daily reflections to trusting in the universe, this conversation is packed with wisdom and practical tools for manifesting love and building a thriving, connected partnership. Whether you’re manifesting your ideal partner or looking to deepen your current relationship, this episode is for you.

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Inside the Episode

  • Manifesting Love and Nicole’s Dream Husband
  • Becoming a Magnet for What You Desire: Energetic Alignment Explained
  • Balancing Ambition and Romance in Entrepreneurial Partnerships
  • Overcoming Low Self Worth and Limiting Beliefs
  • Balancing Strength and Vulnerability With Polarity in Marriage
  • Strengthening Connection In Your Marriage Through Thoughtful Reflection
    • 3 Great things about your day
    • 3 Things we love about each other
    • 3 We love about kids, dogs, etc.
    • What would’ve made today better
  • Trusting in The Universe and Something Greater

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More About Nicole Crone

Nicole Crone is a professional Co-Active Leadership trained coach and NLP practitioner. Alongside Kaila Pilecki, Nicole co-founded My Aligned Purpose in June 2020, to support women entrepreneurs. Nicole is an international best selling author and podcast host. 

The spiritual teachings Nicole provides come from her Registered Yoga/Mindfulness training in Hatha, Yin and Vinyasa as well as sitting in ceremony with Peruvian Shaman medicine women. As a former high school teacher, connector and visionary, Nicole has coached over 200 people to become best selling authors on Amazon, and has coached 1000’s of women inside of our My Aligned Purpose programs. Her mission is to support women in elevating their mindset and proving to themselves that anything is possible. 

Nicole loves time outdoors with her husband and two dogs, living in the pacific north west on Vancouver Island. She is a human design generator, an Aries through and through, a big lover of coffee, dogs, travel and considers herself a learner for life.

Transcript

Hello and welcome back to another episode inside the Unapologetic with Janine MacKinnon podcast. Today I am here with Nicole Krohn for an Unapologetic Stories episode. Welcome, Nicole. Hi, Janine. Thanks for having me back. Yes, thank you so much for being back. It’s been so fun connecting with you, seeing each other grow over the last, I think it’s been four ish years since like the beginning of what was at the time Coffee Club has morphed into My Aligned Purpose and this incredible vehicle and also seeing Seeing you throughout your time and manifesting your husband through that as well, which I’m looking forward to digging into and we’ve been able to be on each other’s podcasts.

I think this will make it two times each, which is fun that we’ve been able to kind of do this dance as we are in each other’s spheres.

Yeah, I love it. And, you know, I, I think that’s the beauty of podcasting is that as long as we’re always open to evolving and we’re in different seasons of life and the conversation gets to be, you know, Exactly what it needs to be for that moment in time.

And it’s not like it’s going to be a repeat of the last one, because there’s just so much happening in life. And so there’s a lot to talk about.

Absolutely. It’s like ever evolving humans that are constantly working on different things, working on our mindset, building different things within our lives.

Like there’s always new things to discover and share about. Would you like to share a little bit more about who you are and what you do?

Yeah, sure. So I’m Nicole Krohn. I live here in Victoria, BC. I was born and raised in Nova Scotia. So from one coast of Canada to the other and really lived all over.

I’ve lived in so many different provinces and I’ve lived overseas and um, when I landed here in Victoria, it was the first time I truly felt like, oh, I don’t need to think about where I’m going next. I felt so alive. Grounded when I got here and that is an incredible feeling for somebody who doesn’t feel grounded most of the time.

Like that’s an energy that Just doesn’t come naturally to me if I’m being honest. Uh, so moving here has felt like the, the portal opened up for me. It’s when all these opportunities opened up for my career. It’s where I’ve met my husband. It’s where I’ve made some of my deepest friendships and connections.

I just know I meant to be here. Um, and, and I’ve been here for seven years now. And in the seven years that I’ve been here, the last five, four and a half have been, uh, spent building my business, which is my line purpose. And we’re a coaching and learning company for women entrepreneurs. And I’ve started my own podcast five years ago.

Um, we really love to help women who want to professionalize their business, who want to take their business seriously, but still have fun. Women who want to have a business that is profitable. That have systems so that you can take a vacation and your business still runs, whether that’s women coming to us that have a side business and they want to expand it to be the full meal deal or women who have fully stepped into their business, but they still can’t figure out How to pay themselves or where their next clients are coming from.

So we help women put those systems in place. And then, of course, have the mindset to believe that those systems are going to work for them. Um, and that business gets to be fun. Our motto is let’s make a lot of money, have, let’s make a lot of money, have a lot of fun, do a lot of good in this world. Um, and so that’s really the work that I’m in, in this season of life.

I got like tingles as you were talking about coming to Victoria and just feeling so grounded and so at home and actually not the first person I’ve heard that has had that experience with coming to Vancouver Island in different ways. So just, just something special and magical about it and absolutely love everything you and Kayla do with My Aligned Purpose.

And it’s such a wonderful experience. Holistic way of looking at business with having a lot of fun, doing a lot of good in the world and building a business that really works for you. That supports your life, not just your business, because what’s the point in doing all of this? If we’re like hating working all the time, not paying ourselves, not being able to be present for our family.

Right. And cause that’s the main point for this is to provide freedom for ourselves and to live the lifestyle we want.

Yeah, exactly. We personally didn’t. Exit our nine to fives. You know, I used to be a teacher and Kayla used to be a professional fundraiser and we didn’t leave those jobs so that we could Work more or work harder or feel like we were the hamster in the wheel in our own business.

We were like, this is our opportunity to create something we love that energizes us, where we get to choose our schedule and there isn’t a cap on what we earn. And we really get, you know, sometimes I’m just like, Oh my God, we’ve made this all up out of thin air and it’s working and people love it and I love it.

And this is amazing. And I suppose that really is what it means to be in flow.

Absolutely. And it’s just, to me, what’s coming through is the power of manifestation backed with aligned action and really having that community to support that, to be able to be in flow. And as you said, it’s like, it just came out of thin air.

Like, yes, there was a lot of hard work and a lot of things that went behind it. And at the same time, like, six years ago, like, if you compare that, it’s like, oof, look at all of this. It’s just appeared, really. Yeah. Mm

hmm. Yeah, exactly. And that’s we’re not afraid to try something and see if it works or if it doesn’t.

And I think that is really important. You know, that is what I see women who succeed in building their own business. It’s that they’re not afraid of trying and trying again and trying something new and pivoting and putting something down and picking something new up and not making it mean a whole lot about me as a person.

It’s just like, Oh, I think this will be fun and transformational. And I really want to build something around it. And, you know, now that we’re five years into this business, there’s a lot more strategy and insight and, uh, that that goes into it. And, uh, that’s not how we started this business. We started this business by being like, wouldn’t it be fun if I got that really, that really is the mentality.

And I, that’s a prompt that I like to use a lot of my life when it comes to journaling and manifesting as wouldn’t it be fun if, or wouldn’t it be great if and seeing what comes from that.

I love that lesson from you. I’ve definitely taken that on after hearing it at probably multiple of your events that you’ve put on, and that wouldn’t it be fun if, like, it adds this playful approach to things, and that’s something we can apply both.

For businesses and in life in our relationships and building that overall again, holistic lifestyle that we’re looking for. And along with building your business from the ground up, you’ve also built that lifestyle from the ground up as well. It was very different when you started. And I remember hearing about it.

I believe probably through some of your podcast episodes and through conversations and how you manifested your now husband, which is such an incredible story. I would love it if you could share a bit about that.

Yeah. I love this story so much because it’s true. Um, and so whenever I’m chatting to somebody and they’re questioning if manifestation is real.

You know, I, I’m not here to convince anybody. I’m like, you’re manifesting literally everything, but are you manifesting things that you love? And, you know, my story of manifesting Jeff was that I, I also feel like I have to say that I feel like the universe finally was like, all right, we’ll give you a good one.

Um, I feel that up until Jeff, um, it was, All my own worthiness stuff, but that’s not consciously what I would have told you. I don’t believe I was walking around thinking I was less than, or not worthy, or that I had this, uh, like expectation of, The capacity of a man that I would get to call into my life.

It’s not like I was consciously thinking those things, but subconsciously that was running the program of, I don’t deserve somebody really great. And who am I to be with somebody who’s not going to cheat on me, who’s going to take care of me, who’s going to provide, um, like that was the subconscious program running.

And it took my last breakup before Jeff to have that true dark night of the soul moment of. What is going on here? And I can remember the summer of 2020, what my ex and I broke up in June of 2020 and the summer of 2020 felt like the hardest. Summer of my life, and it was, well, you just started My Line Purpose.

Kayla and I did, our very, our birthday is June 8th. We did our very first call of My Line Purpose on June 8th, which was a Tuesday. And four days later, on the Friday, my ex broke up with me. And so, I had read, you know, The Upper Limit, or The Big Leap, or whatever it’s called. The Big Leap, where it talks about your upper limit.

I had this moment of, Oh my gosh, I just created this. Like, I don’t have the capacity to hold this business that I love and a relationship and what am I doing wrong? And anyways, that relationship ended. And it wasn’t that I was devastated about losing him as a partner. He was a great, he was a kind man for sure, but it wasn’t about losing him.

It was like, Having this realization of I’m the common denominator here in every relationship, and owning that and being aware of that. Like not putting blame on why did this ex cheat on me and why did that ex cheat on me and why did this ex make me feel that way? It was like, oh, if I really believe that everything is magnetic and that everything carries a frequency and frequencies match, frequencies, what’s my frequency?

What’s my magnetism that I keep attracting these duds? Like they’re, they’re not men, they’re not showing up for me. So what do I have to do for me? So the summer of 2020 was a complete overhaul of my life. I was like, I’m not dating anybody. Uh, in the past I would have been like right on a dating app or like trying to be with somebody, like to just fill the void of like not being alone and no, I’m not doing that.

I’m going to be with myself. And I had one call with a counselor. And I have nothing against counselors, but it wasn’t for me. I was like, no, I need something, I need something different. So then I moved to Astrologers, human design readers, tarot readers, I’m like, I wanted, I wanted people to get like deep into my soul or help me get deep into my soul to realize what is it that I want?

And it’s so cliche to say. And it is true that if you don’t love yourself, you truly don’t create the space for somebody else to love you. And I was like, Oh, my gosh, I, not that I didn’t love myself, but I was being pretty hard on myself. I was being pretty critical. I And there was definitely room to love myself more.

So the summer of 2020 was about dating me. Learning what I really liked, what makes me feel confident and magnetic, and, and what I, what I want to date me, like, is, like, am I energized, am I giving off energetic, good energy, good frequency, um, and so I really got down to the core of what I believe is we don’t manifest what we want, we manifest what we are, and I was like, well, I, I am, um, Confident.

I am full of love. I am spicy and fun. Like I am that and I don’t think I’ve been showing that I don’t think I’ve been being that. And so when I started to be me, really me and not try and be anybody else, not try and impress anybody else, not have expectations on who I think my partner should be. I September rolled around.

So you know, I was single for June, July, August. September rolled around and I was doing a week long coach intensive training and they asked us to delete all of our social media apps off of our phone for a week so that we could be with ourselves. Like, don’t be distracted by anything. And in August, right before this, the end of August, I had gotten a few dating apps, but then chickened out.

And. I don’t ever have notifications on my phone, ever, like, in fact, Jeff could be messaging me right now and he’s always like, you never get back to me because I have my phone on DND 24 7. So, my phone’s always on Do Not Disturb, I don’t have notifications, but then this week in September when they asked us to remove the apps, I was like, oh yeah, I have Hinge, right, I forgot.

Um, and so I go and open up Hinge, and I see a photo of Jeff, who, if you, if you knew me prior to Jeff, I always said that. My lifelong partner. I can’t see them being Caucasian. Um, I see them being big, dark, handsome. Um, that’s like physically what I saw. And then, so I’m gonna get to the actual manifesting piece.

So I saw that I was like, Oh, and this man is rating me and he’s complimenting my dog. He’s not saying anything about me like cute dog because it’s a picture of me and my dog Bella. Bella brought us together and, uh, I was like, Oh, this is really nice. It’s not some sleazy message from some dude about my look or my eyes or whatever.

He’s like genuinely complimenting my dog. So I think that’s cute. And if you know me, I love dogs. But what led up to it being Jeff was I started scripting and scripting for those of you who don’t know the quick rundown is you’re really setting a date in the future. And writing a journal entry as if that date was today and trying to get as descriptive as possible with feelings dates.

And I was doing that for the end of 2020. So I was writing for like December 2020. That I had met my person, that the thing that I said was most important about him was that, When he entered a room, his friends and family had all great things to say about him. Like, he wasn’t going to rely on my friends. I didn’t want another man who I had to be like, yeah, you can just loop into my friendships.

Like I wanted him to have his own friends and for his friends to really value him and love him. Because I know my friends really value and love me. And again, we manifest what we are. And I’m like, I want a partner that is a great friend, is a great brother, is a great son, nephew, those sorts of things. And so that was the most important thing to me.

I didn’t actually ever talk about what he looked like. I didn’t talk about what he did for work. It was how I felt when we entered a room together. How that made me feel. So I meet Jeff, I physically see what he looks like on Hinge. I’m like, well, this literally describes how, what I would like physical in a man.

And we talk on the phone for the first time. And he says to me, Oh, like, I can’t wait for you to meet my friends. So and so their kids all call me uncle Jeff and I can’t wait for you to meet these friends and their kids all call me uncle Jeff. And, um, yeah, and I am an actual uncle to my nephews and niece.

And, oh, I was just, I just got back from Portugal. I was a best man and my friend’s wedding and Jeff’s been in so many weddings and he’s the uncle Jeff to everybody’s kids. And I was like, This is it. That’s what I wanted. I wanted somebody who people were like, He’s a great guy. He’s a good guy. Well, we’d have him stand in our wedding.

We’d let our kids call him uncle. Like, that’s what I wanted. And that I believe all came through from consistently being in the energy. Like, how does it feel when I enter the room with somebody who people are excited to see? And when I First got together with Jeff and he took me to his friend’s house instead of me being like, come along to all of my friends, which was always my past experience.

We entered the room and everybody’s like Jeff and they’re so excited to see him. And I was like, that’s exactly that was the most important thing to me. And that’s what unfolded from it.

Amazing. I just love hearing that story. Like I’m getting all warm and fuzzy. Just hearing you talk about each of the different ways that it all came together.

And that feeling state seems like that main threat with what you really envisioned feeling like with him, how he felt, and also the key piece of becoming that yourself. And I see that in relationships, whether it’s not. Or whether or not it’s calling in a new relationship and becoming that energetic match, becoming that for yourself and also within existing relationships actually resonate within my marriage where when we had kids and had two kids under two years old and I was feeling really resentful and overwhelmed and like things were not in a good spot, just very disconnected and I wanted to make a shift and it started with how I really treated myself.

Right. I wasn’t putting myself on the back burner because that’s how I felt like I was on the back burner. Right. And really becoming that energetic match ourselves. And we attract that whether it’s with a new person or the person we’re with rising up alongside us.

Mm hmm. Yeah. I always say that, you know, people.

Think that they’re manifesting materialistic things. And sure, that might be what you’re trying to bring into your life, like the house, the vacation, the whatever it is. And at the end of the day, the reason you want those things is because they make you feel a certain way, or you perceive that they’re going to make you feel a certain way.

And so if the house or the, or the trip or the home or whatever is going to make you feel excitement or adventurous or joy or abundant, well, what You better wake up and choose to feel that way today because otherwise you’re going to be down here feeling like woe is me, woe, I’ll feel better when I get the house and the house is on the frequency up here and it’s like if the house makes you feel abundant and secure then wake up today and find a way to tap into abundance and security then you’re on the frequency of matching the house to you and for a lot of people they like can’t get past that But I want the experience before it.

I want the experience to create the feeling, but you have to you have to elicit the feeling within you yourself to be more magnetic to the experience.

Absolutely. It’s like that trust and that faith in the process. And also that’s what you’re wanting to get out of the thing anyway. And you have like full control of how you feel.

So why not start putting in the work to actually feel that and embody that. And it comes like, wouldn’t it be nice if you end up getting that thing alongside of it, but you already have that feeling state. And that’s what really creates the big impact in our lives.

And otherwise. You might get the boat, or the house, or the vacation, or whatever it is, and you might still be miserable.

If you’re not choosing to change your state, your energetic state, your feeling state, then you may end up with all these materialistic things that you thought you desired in the first place and you thought they were going to fix you or change you or make things easier, but not if you, yeah, like that’s just not how it works.

So, uh, you have to choose to change your state first.

Yes, that’s what I see a lot with women, where it’s like, I did the right things, chased those accomplishments, got the job, got the marriage, got the house, got the kids, but like, I’m feeling super unfulfilled and not happy with where everything is. And that’s because of chasing those materialistic things, those accomplishments, when really the goal is that feeling state.

Mm hmm. Yeah. Yeah, so impactful. And now fast forward, you’re married and I see you, although there’s definitely been some shadowy hard times, especially recently with Bella, with your dog, and I know it’s been quite a tough summer for you, there’s also being this really embodied. Embodied thriving coming through you with your new house and being just walks from the beach and having your marriage with Jeff.

And so I’d love if you could just share a little bit about how far you’ve come now and with that feeling state being able to thrive as you are as being two business owners in a marriage as well, which has. Yeah,

for sure. You know, when I met Jeff, he, um, wasn’t an entrepreneur. He was working two full time jobs.

That was the mentality he was raised in is like, you just work yourself to the bone because hard workers will be paid in the end. Um, and yeah. Uh, we were only together, well, we met in October, our four year of like knowing each other anniversaries coming up on the 27th, we met in October. And I can remember it was before the new year.

So only within two to three months, I said to him, I guarantee you’re going to have your own business in the next year. Like, I just, I see that for you. I see that for everybody, but I see that for you. And he had never been a business owner, so it was not on his radar. And, um, and then my birthday rolled around the following spring in March, and we were going camping for the weekend.

I wanted to go camping in Sombrio, freezing at Sombrio in March, but no one left. Um, that’s what I wanted to do. And so, yeah. Uh, for those of you who have not met Jeff, he’s incredibly detailed and organized and above and beyond anything I’ve ever experienced in my life. And he was like, well, I’ll get the car ready.

And I go out and he had detailed the car top to bottom. It looked better than when I drove it off the lot. My car was only like two years old at the time. And so I said to him, you could do this. Make this into a business. And he didn’t really say too much about it. A couple months roll around. And then he was like, okay, well you coach me the way you would coach somebody else to really talk about how this could be a business.

We talked about doing influencer marketing to kick it off. Victoria is a small city. That’s what he did. His business absolutely took off. Um, and now he’s full time in his business and he has like 80 monthly subscribers who get their cars detailed every month. And. What that means is we are. Always like we have to come back to okay.

What are we talking about? That’s not work because we’re so passionate about our own work. And I love my work and he loves his work. And so there has been many times throughout the last three years where I’m like, okay, I love you. And can we put work down for the evening? And talk about something else.

He’s never actually said that to me, but I think that I’m just the one who might have more awareness around our conversations. Um, he’s never upset by it or triggered by it and just respects that. I’m like, okay, we need to talk about something else. But I think that is a challenge that maybe other entrepreneurial couples might face.

Or even when one person is entrepreneurial is you really are driven. And so it does. Your work is your baby, and it’s really hard to turn off. Like it’s a lot different than, like, leaving the office and, like, truly leaving your work at the office. And like, this is my office and right, there’s my living room.

Um, so it’s really hard to disconnect. And I would say that that’s not been a challenge for us. It’s been, uh, eye opening experience of, like, remembering, like, Oh, yeah, we could probably benefit from, like, getting outside hobbies. Oh, yeah. I used to really love going to yoga and Jeff just recently got back into boxing and he came home and he was like, I loved that.

That was so fun. I can’t believe I haven’t been doing that for years. And so it’s remembering that there are other parts of ourselves because we’re not parents yet. So we don’t have like that distraction or responsibility of Children at the moment. So it really is just Us and then our business and our dog.

Um, and so it’s really nice to remember who else we are outside of business owners so that we can, you know, bring that to the proverbial table when we sit down and have dinner together of like, how was your day? Talk about work, but then like also, how are you really and what’s going on? And, uh, I’m the type of person that I go deep.

And so that’s been interesting in my connection and relationship with Jeff in that way. He always says to me, nobody’s ever asked me these questions before. So, uh, you know, sometimes I have to, like, reign it back a bit. So I’m like, okay, here’s a scenario. You’re, it’s grade three. You’ve maybe been picked on.

You come home. Do you tell your parents you were picked on? Do you not tell your parents you were picked on? How do they respond? He’s like, oh my god, why are you asking me this? I’m like, because I want to know what you do with your feelings. Um, and so it’s been really, really fascinating. And what I will give Jeff a lot of credit for is And Janine, you and I talked about this on your past podcast in that I have experienced working with different plant medicines and Jeff had never, um, and then last, uh, this time last year, last October, he, uh, went and had his first plant experience for a weekend.

And, um, he came back from that and I could just totally see like a, a deeper. Level of understanding of his own consciousness and awareness, and it did take our conversations to a deeper level, which I was really excited about.

Interesting. And that was a really fun conversation too, that I can link in the show notes for those that are curious about it.

And I can see how, like, you have your own experience and you have this own depth of where you like to take conversations and then it’s like, Oh, maybe I’m going too deep. So for him to have his experience and just like deepen a little bit more,

and

I can definitely resonate with the. Conversations around business.

Cause we’re both business owners as well. And my husband’s Matt’s actually downstairs right now in the living room on his laptop doing his work while I’m up here. And so many of our conversations are around business and family and the kids. And I do feel like we kind of the other topic we’ll get into politics, but I feel like, um, A big part of that is how it affects our family and our lifestyle and our businesses.

And it can be tricky to go outside of that, but it is important to have those different conversations. And another thing that came to mind while you were chatting is about the importance of The separateness, while also like having that anchored connection at the center, but being your own people, having your own relationships and your own hobbies with yoga and boxing and different things like that.

And that’s something I can’t think of the author right now, um, Esther Perel for mating and captivity. She talks about how that is a core piece to maintain, um, some sort of like mystery and it helps maintain a bit of that anticipation and that eroticism a little bit. Because if it’s so blended and so the same all the time, that’s where those feelings of like boringness can come in and that diminishes desire.

And when you have That’s where you have more of that desire and more of that wanting to know these different things.

For sure. And the big thing with my connection and relationship with Jeff that I never had before, um, was trust and my level of trust. And again, you and I talked about this so much in the previous video.

First episode, that was my whole plant medicine journey was trust, but I, I did not have it in intimate relationships with men. And so the thought of like ever going away on my own or my partner going away, it would put me into a state of, Oh my God, they’re going to cheat on me. And who are they going to talk to?

And what are they doing on their phone? And just like total. And I can’t believe I lived that way for so long and like, I could never imagine going through Jeff’s phone. I could never imagine wondering or worrying what he’s doing while I’m away or while he’s away. That, you know, for some people may just be always have been their normal, but for me to be able, you know, Kayla and I go on lots of girls vacations and we write them off as work trips and Jeff and his buddy went to New York in the summer together and had a guy’s trip and That to me, like that’s that separation of our time away.

Yes, we’re so excited when we get to see each other again, even if it’s just a weekend. It’s like, well, like, you know, we’ve really missed one another and I didn’t ever have that opportunity to miss somebody before because I was so panicked about if they were cheating on me or what they were doing behind my back.

And so that level of trust also opens up so much more excitement to be able to see my partner after. Even a day at work, right? Not worrying about, because there was just so much worry in my past.

Mm hmm. That trust is really that anchor in that foundation to be able to have that excitement and desire.

And I’m curious, do you feel like you trusted yourself previously? Was there that lack of trust within as well? And it was mirrored in the relationships,

not like I trusted myself in terms of like, I don’t I wouldn’t cheat on somebody, but trusting myself in terms of where my mind would go and then the things I would question them on.

Like I, I can specifically remember my ex who did end up cheating on me. And so I don’t know how many times he did, but him saying to me, the more that you accuse me of cheating on you, the more I feel like I just should. So I actually have something to give you something to worry about. Like you’re worrying about nothing.

Um, and so it was like, I feel like I didn’t trust my behaviors or, uh, like I used to want to go through past partners phones and like, show me, show me who you’re talking to. Show me what’s going on. And I just, I could not imagine operating that way now because I trust myself and I trust my partner. So yeah, I think that it’s kind of like dual.

It’s like, yes, I trusted myself that I wouldn’t cheat because that’s just a value. But trusting my behavior towards my partner and like, could I hold back from accusing them of something or questioning them or wanting to see who they’re talking to? No.

Yeah, it’s like that trust of your worthiness. Yeah.

To be with the partner that won’t do those things. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. And that worthiness makes such an impact no matter what we’re wanting to magnetize and bring in. We really need to feel worthy and grounded from within with that first, or else it’s just not gonna come.

Yeah, it really is. It’s fascinating that, like, your area of expertise is in sexuality and empowerment and connection and love.

And you know, my area that I feel like an expert in is women in business and building wealth through their own business. And the the core thing I see it come down to when women are like not making money or making money and spending it or whatever their relationship is to money, there’s so much tied up there and worthiness, am I worthy of making this, charging this, earning this, spending this, saving this.

It all actually boils down to worth.

Yeah, sex relationships, money are very closely related and there’s so much around worthiness and trust to be able to work through those things. I just I had another question I was gonna ask you and now it is totally escaped me. Oh, yes, that was the other thing I was thinking of is that with polarity within your relationship I don’t know if you’ve noticed it, but when you mentioned how Jeff is so detail orientated and very thorough and a really great planner and Also how when you came to Victoria how grounded you felt because that’s not something that’s very You Naturally forthcoming for you.

Do you find him being that way really helps ground you?

Oh yeah, it is. My whole family is like, Jeff is the best thing to ever happen to you. Um, which I, and I’m the best thing to happen to him for sure. We balance each other. I, I definitely bring out a more like adventurous, playful side in him. And he.

Keeps me grounded and steady and secure. I’m the type of person that I’ll run with the gas tank running on empty. I’ll get to the airport and they’re calling my name. Those things don’t bother me. I’m just like, well, it is what it is. I’ll fill the gas tank up when I get there. I, who cares if I’m the last person boarding the plane, they’re not going to leave without me.

Like I just have this level of trust in that everything is going to unfold the way it’s supposed to. Jeff is more like, When the tank gets to half, he fills it back up. If we’re going to the airport, he wants to be there like three hours early just to like, know that he’s through security and everything’s good and we’re safe and steady and secure.

And so I think that it’s been a really interesting mix and actually Last night we were laying in bed and we have like these series of questions that we ask each other at night before we go to bed and I can share what some of those are if you want. And, um, and then yeah, we were just discussing and he, we had just spent some time with his family over the holidays and he said, yeah, I really noticed that a lot of my Ways my behaviors of like wanting to control and, and be so organized with certain things have come from my dad.

Like after spending the weekend with him, I really see that that’s where it’s come from. I’m like, yeah. Um, . Yeah. Yeah. That’s all news. Yeah. Um, and I said to him, he said, I feel like I’ve. I’ve really changed a lot since you and I have been together and I said, yeah, you have like, I, I will give you a lot of credit.

Like there used to be a time where Jeff really want to know, like on a day off, like, where are we going and what are we doing? And do we grocery shop first or do we walk the dog? And, and I used to be like, Jeff, that stresses me out. Can we just have the day off and see where it goes? And so we’ve found this middle ground of like, okay, we’ll know some things we’re going to do in the day.

But they don’t have to be planned and like, they’ll just happen as they happen. And so I’ve really seen him, like, loosen up and relax over the years. And then me having Jeff as my life partner, Kayla as my business partner. They’re the two most organized people I know. They’ve really helped me, like, streamline into, I can be free and I can be organized and free and I can be adventurous and I can have strategy and systems and be adventurous.

So I just think that, yeah, our duality or the polarity has been really beneficial for us. Um, I used to think that I wanted to date men like me that were the life of the party and like wild and out there and Jeff being like calm and grounded, doesn’t raise his voice. He’s not out there trying to be the life of the party.

I feel like he is exactly what I need, and I’m exactly what he needs, and it just works really well together.

I love that there really is so much to that polarity and to the opposites attracting. And I think that plays a big role in it too, is we are attracting what we need most. And I’m just, as you were speaking, reminded of so much with Matt and myself as well, where I’ll be the same way.

Like I can go so close to empty and be like, Oh, it’ll work out. I’ll stop at the gas station in time. And he has. Shifted and I’m so proud of myself that I’ve got much better at filling up the tank just after half empty, which is huge. Yeah, which is good. And I’m so thankful that for that, that I don’t have those worries of like, oh no, the lights on, I have to get to the gas station now, but I do have that a bubble of safety just from his preparedness.

Yes, and it was. Too much for me, but it has been able to level each other out. Yeah,

that’s how I feel as well. And, you know, to go back to, uh, for those who are listening and then you’re maybe looking for like, uh, Routine of ways to get to know your partner and those questions that we ask each other before bed is we actually took Jeff has wanted to try so many things since we got together in terms of like personal self development, you know He’d never used to journal or read self development books or pull cards, you know Card out here that he pulled this morning and So, you know, he’s he’s really into all these things because he sees what they do for me.

So I Uh, he wanted the five minute journal, and what he realized was like, Oh, I would rather just talk these through with you than write them out. So we started taking those questions at the end of the day, and so he always will ask me, like, what are, Three great things about your day today, and so then I’ll say, and it really like sometimes when I feel like there’s nothing great to say, you can still find three great things, and then it brings me back to a state of appreciation for everything I have.

Um, so three great things about our day, we’ll ask each other that. Then we say three things that we love about each other. So three things I love about Jeff, three things he loves about me. Then we go through three things we love about Louie, that’s our dog. Uh, when we used to have Bella, we’d say three things we love about Bella.

Um, and so we just kind of go through these questions that are in the five minute, minute journal of like, what would have made today better? Talk through that with each other, but the most important thing, you know, if we don’t go through the whole series and sometimes we’ll just be in the kitchen cooking dinner and he’ll say, want to know three things I love about you today?

Like, okay. Um, and so then we get to have that conversation and yeah, I feel I feel really grateful that, um, I have somebody who’s open to having those sorts of talks with me.

Mm hmm. What a fantastic idea to take that journaling into the conversation, because I know myself, I’ve kind of done the stop starting with the evening gratitude journaling and different things like that, but I think there’s this special layer in doing it, especially with your partner, where you’re received in

your

thoughts.

And reflected back and then you get to hear theirs as well. It’s like this extra level of depth And doing it towards the end of the night like that’s so great for anchoring in your connection within your relationship Because our most important connection points are before and after our longest time of separation And so that’s generally work and sleep And so when we can make sure we have those connection points before we go to sleep, in the morning before we separate, before work, and then when we reunite afterwards, that makes a massive impact on a relationship, how connected and supported we feel.

So I love that spin of doing that.

I love that little tidbit of information about the best time to connect. Yeah, I think that’s beautiful.

Yeah, I find it’s really helpful, especially for those that are feeling more disconnected in their relationships to be like, okay Let’s just prioritize These three moments like we don’t have to do all these big changes But like let’s just prioritize that and then kind of things begin to come from that.

Mm hmm. I love that I’m definitely going to check out the recording and like write out those things of what you’re grateful for and what you love about each other and your dogs and we’ll do that for our kids.

Yeah, yeah, it’s, it’s really fun. I mean, oftentimes we’re repeating things and, and that is totally okay.

You know, it really goes to show. I know the things that Jeff really loves about me and he knows the things I really love about him because they just get, like, repeated over and over. I mean, if you ask your partner this question every single day, which we do, um, then you’re bound to start to repeat some things that you love about one another.

Absolutely. And how great is it getting that feedback on a daily basis and like getting your happy hormones going and just feeling so good about yourselves and each other and like great information gathering as well for like gift ideas or experience ideas and things like that too.

I love it. Well, thank you for that tidbit. And we are coming up to time. Before we close up, I’m just wondering if there’s any last messages you might like to share for those that are on their journey of really embracing themselves, creating that lifestyle that’s for them, both in business and in family life.

Well, I really think that the way that I’ve been able to be in this home that I love that is steps from the ocean that I envisioned and Have my husband that is a true manifestation of business that I love and Friendships that are really meaningful to me those things that are that are important I think the reason I’ve been able to like get here I don’t know if that’s really the way to word it or like experience life in this way Is because I genuinely have a trust that there’s something bigger than me guiding me and that I don’t have to put it all on my own shoulders.

And so, for me, that’s universe. For others listening, it might be God, creator, mother nature, your higher self, I don’t know, your guides, angels, whatever it might be. But to me, it’s always like, hey universe, it’s me. Um, and I really do have this trust. That, you know, Gabby Bernstein says the universe has your back.

I really do have that trust that the universe has my back and that I, you know, didn’t come this far to only come this far. I have this trust that, you know, when I’m going into a launch in my business or I want an experience with my partner to be a certain way that I don’t have to know all the answers.

I don’t have to have everything figured out. And I don’t have to be perfect at anything. That’s not even actually possible. Um, just really having a connection with the. energy source, a higher consciousness that is bigger than us. And however, somebody listening to this wishes to do that is totally up to them.

The ways that I connect with my higher self and with universe are, I do that through meditation. I do that through journaling. I do that through verbal communication. You know, yesterday I was in my kitchen, I was making my coffee and I was like, Oh my gosh, universe. This has been such an abundant day. Like I’m just having this open conversation with the universe.

And I think it’s just as important to truly be appreciative and grateful for what you have for every single time you make an ask. Like you better have a gratitude or something lined up. Cause we can’t just always be giving. We’ve got to be able to, uh, we can’t always be taking, we always, we have to be able to give as well.

But then the second most important piece to that is. If you’re like putting out your SOS call of like, Hey universe or God or whatever, like I could really use some guidance on this. You’ve got to take some time to listen. If you just put that SOS call out there and then you go about your day and you’re not creating any quiet, spacious time in your schedule to hear the whisper.

And if people are like, what do you mean? Like, am I going to hear a voice? Like you, you will get the answers you’re looking for. If you carve out the quiet, introspective time to hear that. And I think that’s where a lot of people feel like they’re in this hamster wheel of life and, like, going, going, going, trying to do, achieve, be the go getter, all those sorts of things, like, believe me, I was that.

Um, and it actually doesn’t get you anywhere that you really want to be, and it certainly doesn’t allow you to feel the things that you want to feel. And so my greatest understanding or gift that I’ve been given in the last decade is like, oh, yeah, I’m, I’m on this gigantic scale. Spinning ball in the earth.

Clearly something is out there that’s bigger than me. And I’m going to lean on that. I’m going to lean on the trust of like, somebody’s got my back. Something has got my back.

I so appreciate that as like someone who I grew up with like no religion or spirituality at all and that’s something I’ve really been discovering for myself over the past probably three ish years more and more.

I love hearing other people actually talk about it and what their relationship is with the universe or these different divine energies or whatever it is, um, to each of us and how you’re able to have that relationship and just. Speak out loud. I find that’s really helpful and I definitely fully agree with we need that space for that stillness and that slowness.

Like I’m definitely former boss babe go getter, constantly burning myself out, right? And we really have so much wisdom within and can open ourselves to the wisdom of the universe when we get still enough. and quiet enough. That is so important and that in itself is so productive to just give yourself space.

Yeah, absolutely. I feel that, you know, a lot of times When, uh, like I’m doing mindset calls, for example, inside of our coaching program, people ask me like, where did you get this? Like, where are you getting this information? I’m like, it’s not a book. It’s not a podcast. It’s, it’s not a teacher. It’s truly something bigger than me.

Like Kayla used to joke and be like, are you Abraham Hicks? Like the things that you can channel are next level. And I’m like, I think everybody, not I think, I know everybody. Yeah. Has the ability to tap into, even if it’s your higher self, it’s like a deeper understanding of your own consciousness and awareness.

We all have that, but most people don’t believe it or they don’t trust it or they don’t create the time for it. But if you believe it, if you believe that being, if, if everybody listening to this episode was to start to create a core belief for themselves, that when they trust a higher guiding power, everything unfolds as it’s meant to.

You’re gonna start to create a relationship with something bigger than you because that’s your belief that Everything gets better and better when you have a guide when you have support

Mm hmm, and it’s something that builds We might have that disconnection But when we have that belief and we become open to it then we can build that relationship begin to hear it more build that trust for it more and then are able to act on it more often and Reap the rewards of that.

Yeah. Yeah,

absolutely Well, thank you so much for that. And for this whole conversation, where can others find you and get in touch? Cause I know you have lots of good things going on.

Well, thanks Janine. Um, it’s, it’s My Line Purpose across the board. So our website is MyLinePurpose. com. Instagram, Instagram is My Line Purpose.

The podcast is My Line Purpose podcast. Facebook is My Line Purpose. Um, yeah, I think those are. All the places that I’m hanging out these days and that would love to connect with people. We’ve got different in person events going on, a podcast, coaching programs, and it can all be found under that name.

Yes, I highly recommend podcast, Instagram, I love all of the different events you put on and I’m really looking forward to the in person ones and at time of recording. Good luck for tonight.

Thank you. Yeah, I’m feeling. 12 on 10 excited and yeah, it’s gonna be a really incredible evening and we just released the tickets for our December 17th event So they’re live and ready to go.

All right. Well, I know what I’m doing after I sign off this recording. I will be there Okay, awesome. All right. Thanks. Thanks, Colleen