Orgasms can feel elusive for many women, leaving some wondering if those stories of deep, expansive pleasure are truly possible. Yet we know they are! So what’s holding you back from moving past pre-orgasmic stages or brief bursts of pleasure to experience full-body, wave-like, expansive orgasms?

That’s the focus of today’s Tuesday Transmission on Unapologetic with Jannine MacKinnon. In this episode, “7 Reasons Why You’re Not Experiencing Expansive Orgasms,” we dive into the hidden barriers that may be blocking you from orgasmic bliss. Tune in, or read the blog post below, to understand these obstacles and feel empowered to navigate your path toward expansive pleasure and ecstasy.

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7 Reasons You’re Missing Out on Expansive Orgasms

  • 7 Reasons You’re Missing Out on Expansive Orgasms
  • Obstacles to Experiencing Expansive Orgasms: What’s Standing in the Way?
    1. Disconnected from Your Body: Reclaiming Sensual Awareness
    2. Self-Conscious and Self-Critical? Releasing Mental Blocks for True Pleasure
    3. Negative Beliefs Around Sexuality: Overcoming Cultural Conditioning
    4. Chasing the Climax: Learning to Flow Rather Than Force
    5. Skipping the Warm-Up: The Essential Role of Slow-Building Arousal
    6. Contracted Breath and Body: Unlocking Relaxation for Heightened Sensation
    7. Struggling to Surrender? Finding Safety and Freedom in Vulnerability
  • Embracing Your Body’s Birthright to Pleasure
  • Inviting Radiance Through Pleasure: A Key to Feminine Magnetism

Show Notes

Understanding Expansive Orgasms: A Gateway to Full-Body Pleasure

Expansive orgasms are more than just a physical release; they represent a deeper connection between the body, mind, and spirit, allowing you to experience waves of pleasure that resonate throughout your entire being. This type of orgasm invites a holistic experience that transcends the traditional notions of climax, tapping into the essence of one’s sensuality and emotional state. Rather than a quick burst of pleasure located in one particular area, you are able to experience waves of pleasure rippling through your entire body, and access higher levels of consciousness.

Obstacles to Experiencing Expansive Orgasms: What’s Standing in the Way?

Many factors can inhibit your ability to experience expansive orgasms. Understanding these obstacles is crucial for overcoming them, something I love helping clients with. The most common barriers I see in my practice include mental blocks, emotional disconnection, and physical constraints that can create a barrier to expansive pleasure.

Disconnected from Your Body: Reclaiming Sensual Awareness

A significant hurdle in achieving expansive orgasms is disconnection from your body. This disconnection often arises from societal conditioning, trauma, or simply neglecting to tune in to physical sensations. This is often done in both sexual and non-sexual ways.

Sexual: Receiving penetration before you are ready or wanting, having sex out of duty rather than desire, etc.

Non-sexual: Ignoring your intuitive nudges, ignoring your body’s signals to slow down and rest, etc.

Reconnecting with your body involves mindfulness practices that encourage a deeper awareness of physical sensations, leading to a more fulfilling sexual experience.

Self-Conscious and Self-Critical? Releasing Mental Blocks for True Pleasure

Feeling self-conscious or self-critical can create a mental barrier to experiencing pleasure. Getting caught up in these negative thoughts can cloud your ability to fully engage in the moment. To get out of your head and into your body you can work on things both outside the bedroom, and inside the bedroom.

Outside the bedroom: Building a compassionate relationship with your body through mirror work, positive affirmations, and embodiment practices.

Inside the bedroom: Keep bringing your focus back to your sensations. As you notice yourself getting caught up in your thoughts, redirect yourself to your sensations. For example, a tingling sensation on your arm, a warmth and wetness in your yoni, energy buzzing in your breasts, etc.

And remember, this is a practice! It takes both time and dedication, but as long as you stay committed to yourself, you will build the skills to let go of your critical thoughts and stay present in sexual experiences so you can build to those expansive orgasmic experiences.

Negative Beliefs Around Sexuality: Overcoming Cultural Conditioning

Cultural beliefs and negative narratives surrounding sexuality can significantly impact sexual experiences. Challenging these ingrained beliefs is essential for fostering a healthy relationship with one’s sexuality. This is why I do a lot of inner child healing and somatic work within my practice. These beliefs have been layered on unconsciously for years, and it takes deep inner work to both release them, and fill that space with more empowering belief systems that allow you to feel good, sexy, and empowered while embracing your sexuality, leading to more expansive pleasure.

Chasing the Climax: Learning to Flow Rather Than Force

In our quest for orgasm, we often find ourselves chasing the climax rather than enjoying the journey. This approach can lead to frustration, disconnect, and those short little burst orgasms if any at all. Embracing a more fluid experience of intimacy—focusing on sensations, connection, and exploration—can open the door to more expansive orgasms, where pleasure flows naturally.

A great way of doing this is by empracing a self pleasure practice. By taking orgasm pursuit off the table, you’re able to open your capacity for how much pleasure you are able to feel and hold, and therefore open yourself up to more expansive orgasms.

Skipping the Warm-Up: The Essential Role of Slow-Building Arousal

Many women require a longer warm-up period compared to men to fully awaken their bodies for expansive orgasms. This process involves building arousal from the outside edges in, allowing for a deeper connection with one’s entire being. Taking the time to explore different areas of the body—through gentle touch, caresses, or even tools like Yoni eggs—can significantly enhance arousal and sensitivity.

This warm-up is not just physical; it also fosters emotional safety and trust. By allowing desire to build and ensuring the body feels cherished, you can tap into your innate capacity for pleasure. When approached with patience and intention, this essential warm-up period opens the door to more profound and expansive orgasms, allowing pleasure to flow throughout the entire body rather than being confined to one concentrated area.

Contracted Breath and Body: Unlocking Relaxation for Heightened Sensation

Physical tension can significantly impede the experience of expansive orgasms, and is often a symptom of some of the other root causes that are listed here. Many women unconsciously contract their bodies during arousal and orgasm, which restricts pleasure and leads to shorter, less fulfilling experiences. This tension often manifests as clenching of the hands, feet, and legs, as well as holding one’s breath, creating a constrictive state that inhibits the natural flow of pleasure.

To cultivate a more expansive experience, it’s essential to embrace the three keys of tantra: breath, sound, and movement. By focusing on deep, rhythmic breathing, you can begin to release tension and create a sense of safety in your body. Allowing breath to flow freely not only alleviates physical constriction but also opens up emotional pathways, enabling a deeper connection to one’s sensations.

Incorporating sound into the process can further amplify pleasure, unlocking the throat chakra and inviting the body to express itself. Movement is equally important; allowing the hips and body to move freely facilitates the release of pent-up energy and promotes a sense of fluidity. When the body is relaxed and responsive, the waves of pleasure can travel through the entire being, rather than being concentrated in one area.

Ultimately, breaking free from the habit of contraction requires practice and self-awareness. By learning to relax and surrender during intimate moments, you can fully embrace your capacity for pleasure, leading to truly expansive orgasms that resonate throughout your entire body.

Struggling to Surrender? Finding Safety and Freedom in Vulnerability

A key aspect of experiencing expansive orgasms is the ability to surrender fully to the moment. This surrender can be particularly challenging for those who do not feel safe or secure in their bodies, or surroundings. Many women and people in general, grapple with a need to control their experiences, often stemming from a lack of internal safety. Cultivating a strong foundation of love, safety, and belonging is crucial for unlocking expansive pleasure. This can begin with personal practices such as self-pleasure, which fosters a deeper connection with your body and reinforces a sense of love and acceptance for yourself.

Building trust with partners through open communication and shared experiences enhances feelings of safety and belonging, allowing both partners to explore their desires without fear of judgment. Additionally, creating a comfortable and inviting environment can support this foundation; whether it’s soft lighting, soothing music, or simply a clutter-free space, a nurturing atmosphere encourages relaxation. When you feel grounded in love and safety, you can let go of the need for control and fully embrace the moment. This deep sense of security nurtures surrender, ultimately leading to more profound and expansive orgasms that resonate throughout your entire body.

Embracing Your Body’s Birthright to Pleasure

Recognizing that pleasure is a natural and inherent right can be very empowering. Each person is entitled to experience pleasure without shame or guilt, and embracing this birthright opens the door to deeper exploration of one’s sensuality. Understanding the biology of pleasure is essential; notably, the clitoris is the only human organ whose sole purpose is for pleasure. With over 10,000 nerve endings dedicated to providing sensation and pleasure, the clitoris plays a pivotal role in a woman’s sexual experience.

When you acknowledge that your body is designed for pleasure, it fosters a sense of empowerment and connection to your sexuality. This understanding encourages exploration and engagement with one’s body, leading to more expansive orgasms and a richer life experience. By reclaiming the joy and significance of pleasure, you can cultivate a beautiful relationship with your own sensuality, allowing you to tap into the full spectrum of your erotic potential. This shift not only enhances personal pleasure but also contributes to greater confidence, presence, and magnetism in all areas of life.

Inviting Radiance Through Pleasure: A Key to Feminine Magnetism

Pleasure is not just a personal experience; it radiates outward and can significantly impact your energy and presence. By embracing pleasure, you tap into a reservoir of hormonal benefits that enhance your overall well-being. When we engage in pleasurable experiences, our bodies release a cocktail of hormones, including dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins. These hormones not only elevate mood and promote feelings of happiness and connection but also contribute to a vibrant radiance that others can feel and notice.

This radiance stems from a deep place of self-acceptance and empowerment. As you embrace your right to pleasure, you cultivate a magnetic energy that naturally attracts others. This enhanced magnetism is not limited to romantic or intimate experiences; it permeates all aspects of life, cultivating deeper connections in both intimate and non-intimate relationships. When you feels confident and radiant, you create an inviting aura that invites open communication, trust, and mutual attraction. By nurturing our capacity for pleasure, we enhance not only our own lives but also the lives of those around us.

Conclusion

In conclusion, experiencing expansive orgasms involves understanding and overcoming various physical, emotional, and mental barriers. By reconnecting with the body, releasing self-criticism, challenging negative beliefs, and cultivating a safe environment, you can unlock the potential for blissful pleasure. Embrace your body’s birthright to pleasure and invite radiance into your life. With dedication and exploration, expansive orgasms can become a fulfilling part of your sexual journey.

If you’re curious about exploring the expansive pleasure that awaits you and would like additional support on your journey, I offer a variety of options to help you deepen your connection to your body and enhance your experience of pleasure:

  • Unapologetic Practices Collection: This self-led journey provides a selection of empowering practices designed to support your exploration of pleasure and self-discovery.
  • Free Honeypot Meditation: A foundational practice that helps you build a stronger connection with your body and your sexual organs, fostering awareness and openness.
  • Coaching Sessions: Through personalized coaching, we delve into deeper somatic work, addressing inner child stories, and exploring father and mother wounds. This process cultivates a solid foundation of love, safety, and belonging, while equipping you with tools to be fully present and expansive in your capacity for pleasure.

If you’re interested in any of these options or would like to discuss how I can assist you further, feel free to book a Complimentary Connection Call. I would love to chat with you!